the beauty of true friendship

i'm in LA for the weekend visiting some of my lovelies and catching up in the sunshine. i've been thinking about how true friendship just works. there's this effortless, unspoken connection between two people that provides a foundation for a solid relationship.

you don't have to worry how you look, smell, talk, or act because they love you all the same. you don't have to work at being friends, you just are. even if you haven't seen each other in months, it's like you never left and you're laughing at the same jokes and enjoying each other all the same. conversation is effortless and you don't have to make an effort to listen, you just do. sure, when you come across trials and arguments you have to work to repair the damage. but, you both still appreciate the unspoken link between yourselves and understand its incredible value.

there's some people i've grown apart from because as we change, our needs change. i think we're friends with who we need, and depending on where we are in our lives we need different people. after years of change, sometimes friendships just don't work anymore and it just becomes difficult. It's no one's fault or intention, but somehow it happens....

i think this same idea translates into intimate relationships as well. if you're meant to be with someone, you will. they will appreciate the things you think you have to hide to be desirable. they will love you when you're moody, angry, fussy, bitchy, and just downright crazy. sure, relationships can be difficult, but you should be able to be yourself and it just works.

maybe that's asking too much, but i look forward to meeting that person someday.

....or maybe i've already met them and i'm just overlooking the obvious.